Four Tips To Overcome The Fear of Loneliness

There’s a difference between being lonely and being alone. You may be alone while enjoying time spent by yourself without interruptions but that doesn't mean you're lonely. 

Did you know the #1 reason why women stay in abusive relationships is because they fear being alone? The fear of loneliness can be spiritually paralyzing. I'm going to share four tips that will free you from loneliness and help you live a more fulfilling life.  

1) Embrace the joy of being alone. Have you ever been in a loud crowded event and you thought, “I can’t wait to get home and have some peace and quiet all by myself?” Maybe you’ve been engaged in an intense argument and you couldn’t wait to leave or walk away to be alone in a quiet peaceful place. There is a joy and peace that comes from being alone. If you embrace the season of being alone by seeking God and developing your faith, you can grow in so many ways. As you learn to embrace being alone you can grow in a more deeper loving relationship with yourself which ultimately leads to healthier relationships with others. 

2) Do not focus on your current situation, instead focus on the promises of God. Put your focus on the hope of things getting better in your life. Think positive things and speak positive things. Do not limit yourself to negative thoughts. If you desire being in a loving healthy relationship and getting marriage, focus on gaining wisdom you can use while preparing for marriage. You don't have to be in a relationship to prepare for marriage. Read Christian books on dating such as "When God Sent My Husband: Wisdoms For Capturing And Keeping A Man's Heart."

3) Take action by creating goals and working your plan. What are the things you’ve been putting off that you would love to accomplish? Allow this season to be a time of working on bettering your life. Instead of dreading being alone, embrace being by yourself as a gift to free you up to become a better person. Set new goals and create a plan. If being in a relationship is important to you get relationship advice from relationship experts who have experienced a long-term loving relationship. My husband and I didn't start giving relationship advice until after being marriage for 12 years. We also pray and ask God for guidance and surround ourselves with other wise married couples. 

4) Understand the truth about FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real) and don’t allow it to control you. The truth is, you’re never alone. God said, He’ll never leave you nor forsake you. “Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the Lord your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6

Excerpt from “Addicted To Pain”
There’s a difference between being lonely and being alone. You may be alone while enjoying time spent by yourself without interruptions. It’s the much-needed “me time” when you turn off the television or phone and enjoy time alone reading a book, relaxing, or even meditating. However, when you’re lonely, it’s the emptiness inside that feels painful. Loneliness has nothing to do with being alone. You can be lonely while standing in a baseball stadium filled with 60,000 people. If you are experiencing loneliness, something must change on the inside in order for you to overcome it.

Mother Teresa said, “Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.” Don’t get distracted by how things look currently in your life. This is a season; it’s temporary; you will get through this if you hold on to the power that is greater than what you see. Call on the God of the universe, and ask that His Holy Spirit be known in your heart. Get in touch with your passions and connect with the contentment and peace of just being you. When you were an infant, you were loved and cared for because you existed. You didn’t have to be smart, rich or married to be loved. Learn to connect and be okay with just being. You have a greater purpose than what you see.